Likeable people are charming and genuine. They have this way of making people smile or laugh just because they’re there. That is how you probably would like your co-workers or employees to see you. You don’t need to be Mr. Congeniality or Ms. Congeniality, but it is always a good idea to get along well with people. You will look forward to going to work if you enjoy the people you work with. You will enjoy them if you are friends with them. You can be their friends if they genuinely like you. But how do you get people to like you?
Getting people to like you is easy is you are great at small talk. Some people find it easy to talk to people. They’re not a bit shy about approaching people. It is easy for them to make a good impression, but not all people are like that. Maybe you find it difficult to do these things. So, how do you get people to like you?
Create the Right Impression
There are people who place a lot of importance on themselves. This shows in their actions, manner of speaking or poses. Although your parents may have taught you to stand up straight and stand up tall, you should make sure that you don’t go too far.
You can still exhibit self confidence without rubbing people the wrong way. Don’t give the impression that you are trying to establish your importance, that meeting you is a great honour. Meeting you is not just about you. Don’t make it about you. No one likes that. Nobody wants to feel insignificant or inferior.
When meeting people, step forward with a big smile, bend slightly forward as if you’re showing deference or respect. This is a pose that everyone recognizes and responds to. This gives people the impression that you are the one honoured that you are meeting them, and not the other way around.
Don’t Be Afraid to Touch People
People like to be touch. They respond to being touch. But be careful about touching people though. Make sure that you won’t have a sexual harassment suit filed against you. Make sure you keep it professional and friendly. A pat on the shoulder is a good example. Just make sure you keep it casual. There are people who shake with their right hand and touch with their left hand.
So, the next time you talk to someone or walk up behind someone or wait in line behind a co-worker, touch them lightly on the shoulder before making a conversation. People will respond to you more. Everyone likes to be touch. A touch can break down barriers. It decreases the distance between people. Just make sure that you keep it casual, friendly and nonthreatening in any way.
Show People That You’re Interested In What They Have to Say
Have you ever met someone and afterwards walk away thinking, “Wow! That was a great conversation!” And then later on realized that you’ve blabbed about your life, but you didn’t actually learn a single thing about the other person. It wasn’t because he didn’t volunteer any information, but it was because he showed a lot of interest on what you were saying that you did all the talking!
There are some people who can do this. They can get you to talk without you realizing that you are actually talking. They show fascination with your life. They lean forward and listen to every word that you say. You do all the talking, but you go away feeling like you’ve talked to a friend. At the end of the conversation, you realized you genuinely like them.
How do they do this? These people simply just show genuine interest. They use politeness to cast a spell on you. They tell you they like without opening their mouth. Their actions speak for themselves. You like them for it. The next time you talk to someone from work, show genuine interest. Do not talk about yourself. Ask questions about them. This validates them as a person. By doing this, you implicitly tell them, “I see you. You are important.”
Remember: Everything is NOT a Competition
If you want your co-workers to like you, then stop competing with them. You need to accept that someone people are better than you at something. Do not compete. Let them enjoy themselves. Try to lose every now and then, and try to offer genuine compliments. Do not be afraid to accept weaknesses. People like that because they can relate to you.
Do Not Be Afraid to Go Out of Your Way – And Don’t Ask for Something In Return!
Learn to give favours. For instance, if a fellow steward asks you to swap shift schedules because his daughter has a school play or it’s his son’s 7th birthday, then do it. Don’t expect something in return. Go out of your way for people every now and then. If there is something that needs extra cleaning, then volunteer to do it. People will like you for it.
That’s it. If you want people to like you, then be kind. Develop a kind soul. Don’t talk bad about your fellow stewards. Go out of your way for people. Have a smile for everyone. Know when someone needs help and extend your help. Be genuinely kind and your co-workers will notice. People respond to kindness, and everyone likes kind people.